By Danica Lo
January 08, 2021
Keep new year’s resolutions and kick your vices to the curb with this step-by-step guide from the pros
New year, new you—and new resolutions to break those bad habits once and for all. Whether it’s smoking, nail-biting, overindulging in sugary snacks, or even poor posture, behavioral coaches and psychologists say there is a basic framework to follow for anyone looking to kick their vices to the curb.
Sometimes, even the simplest habit can take an enormous effort to change.
“I had a client who stopped at Dunkin Donuts every morning, went inside and bought a donut and coffee,” leadership coach Amie Devero tells Tatler Asia. “Everyday he told himself he would forgo the donut. But once he was inside, the sight and aroma would be overwhelming, and he would relent. “In order to alter that habit, we had to first figure out what the thought was as he drove to the shop. He recognized that he was always running late and so left home without breakfast. The other thing was that he always walked inside of the store.
“So, first he had to decide whether he was going to continue viewing himself as someone who eats junk and doesn’t work out–or whether he was willing to look at himself in a different way. He chose to reframe his view of himself as someone who ate healthy foods and looked after his health,” she says. “That formed the foundation to alter his behavior. Since he was committed to reducing his sugar intake, and he had figured out the structural issues, we crafted a plan.
“He would write down what he would have the next day for breakfast at bedtime. That way, he could wake up with a plan about what to eat. Then instead of running late, he would set the alarm a bit earlier. He would eat breakfast and then, as he drove to work, if he wanted a coffee, he would go to the drive through of a different shop,” Devero says. “Each step in this process was designed to remove all of the triggers of the entrenched routine. No more hunger. No more visual cue to go into the…
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